December, 2007

by Rev. Linda Bardes

Your Wedding Vows are for the Purpose of Creating Dreams that Give You Passion for Life and Each Other.

Main Point: You need dreams to keep you truly alive and vital. They help you create passion: for life and for each other.

The Question: “What makes me come alive?”

The Story: This commandment has to do with staying passionate about yourself, your partner and the third entity which is the marriage.

In order to do that you must keep hopes and dreams in front of you. They give you reason to get up in the morning, reason to plan, and a vehicle to help you create powerful and long lasting relationships.

They help you create passion: for life and for each other. A dream is bottled energy. You uncork that bottle when you talk about and imagine living your dreams. Do it often. Click to continue »

by Rev. Linda Bardes

Do not hesitate to see more in each other than what is presented at face value. Look deep. People tend to live up to our expectations of them.

Main Point: Hold you goals high and hold the dreams of your spouse high also. Both partners have to grow emotionally, spiritually, and sexually or the relationship becomes unbalanced and eventually one partner outgrows the other.

The question:  ”What one thing can I do today to honor the uniqueness of my partner?

The Story:  Today I want to discuss Commandment #2-Honor Each Other. Let’s begin with this bible commandment. “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

We’ve established in Commandment #1 that you must love and honor yourself first. This is not a selfish command. It is so practical and powerful that if more people would understand that you cannot give anything away if you do not first possess it that practicing the art of self-love would be a priority and the world at large would be automatically changed.

It’s not a cocky kind of arrogant self-love. It’s a quiet powerful sense of self that creates an energy that draws everything to it that supports one’s highest and greatest good including ideas, people, jobs, money, etc. Click to continue »

by Rev. Linda Bardes

When you hold yourself high with integrity and self respect and never compromise your values you can trust each other absolutely. It’s the basis for everything else that defines your marriage.

Main Point-Your marriage and your life will be determined by the values each of you decide are important and give your attention to.

The question:  ”What are my 5 most important values?”

The Story: This might seem like a strange way to begin the 10 commandments of Marriage with, the idea of putting yourself first.

However, if you don’t know what you are all about, what you want from life and what you have to give to it, you won’t know what you have to give to your partner, your marriage, or yourself.

Consciously determining what those values are will set the tone of your entire life. Click to continue »

by Rev. Linda

If you are headed in the direction of the altar, even if it’s months away, now is the best time to be thinking about your life together as a threesome.

I say threesome because there are the two of you and the third entity called The Marriage. All three of you have to be supported for your life together to work.

Now, this is why I say that right now is the best time to plan your life, which is another word for your marriage: Everyone is on your side and sending you good vibes, just as though they were all praying for you. Which, in one sense they are.

From the cake maker to the dress maker to the caterer, to your friends and family, everyone is directing love and appreciation to you. They are helping to turn the sizzle into a fireworks display!

Not using this highly charged, sizzling, productive, receptive, fruitful and rich time is to squander the greatest opportunity you have to plan and direct the experience of your powerful and amazing marriage.

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By Rev. Linda  

“Choice is destiny’s soul mate.” Sarah Ban Breathnach

What is your idea or dream of the most amazing marriage and partnership that you can imagine?

That dream is why you write your own wedding vows. The emotion and the strength of that idea outpictured is what creates a fantastic and powerful marriage.

You begin by asking yourself questions. Once you ask yourself a question then your mind will go about finding the answer.

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By Rev. Linda

Today I want you to think of your marriage and your wedding vows as though they are money. You spend your money, earn your money, save and invest your money based on pre-set ideas and beliefs.

Perhaps you are well organized and specific about your money. (If you’re not  you want to start reading my Marry Money Blog. See the link on the right in BlogRoll.)

You plan.

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