August, 2008

When you pledge your vows at your wedding ceremony you are not done with them. You are going to keep rereading them to pump the creative energy of the Universe into them and make them a Law of Attraction.

Keep that in mind when you write your personal wedding vows. I want you to put some substance into them. I want you to infuse them with a dream and a vivid vision for your marriage.

That means you are not going to write them just so they sound like some poet came to live with you for a week. Impressing your guests is the least of it. Because, when the ceremony is over no one is going to remember what you said.

Your vows are for the two of you. Period. If you write them together your vows reflect the dream you have for your lives and for your marriage.

“You remind me of the sun rising in the East on a clear morning,” may be poetic but it doesn’t MEAN ANYTHING!

Your vows have to mean something. They have to have some substance. They are the dream you have for your life together!

Because your marriage vows are the dream you have for your life together, you must write your vows together. Don’t go off into a dark corner and surprise your partner. Surprise is not good here. You want to literally be on the same page.

Sit down together and talk about the dream you have for yourself and your life together. First one of you shares the dream for your individual life apart from the marrriage. This is most likely your career. Then the other shares their dream. Then talk about the dream for your marriage. What does it look like, feel like, sound like, etc. Talk about sex, and money, and children, and religion or spirituality, about houses and cars, about travel, about philanthropy, and anything you can think about that will make up the reality and experience of the marriage.

(In my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS-How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages , I give you lots of help with this including a ‘living the dream’ workbook. See link on right-wedding vows)

Talk about what you will each do to help the other achieve their dream and talk about what you will have to do to keep ‘living the dream.’

That’s the basis of your vows. It’s not the vows yet. But the essence.

Now put what you talked about into written vows.

“I will love you by striving to grow and be healthy for both our sakes.”

“I vow to make our time together a priority in my life.”

“I promise to encourage your dreams and I promise to dream those dreams with you.”

“I promise never to go to bed angry.”

All these are great lines as long as you know what they mean.

Think BIG. Dream BIG. Live BIG!

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping you to ‘Live the Dream”

I took the following from an Email from Joe Vitale. I felt it said very well what I have been trying to tell people about why you should write your own wedding or marriage vows.

He has a program he sells that he calls, Miracle Coaching, and he talks about the Law of Attraction, or Law of Cause and Effect. Or another way to put it is to say “You have to Decide.” You can check out his site at www.MrFire.com

“You are the masterpiece of your own life; you are the Michelangelo of your own life. The David that you are sculpting is your life (your marriage).

What does that mean and why is it important to you?

It means that you do not have any limits as to what you can accomplish. You just need to have a plan and work it. But it is all up to you.

So now that you know what you would dare, what you would dare to be and what you would dare to have if there were no limits - you are ahead of 99.9% of people.

“What would you dare” is another way of saying that the two of you sculpt the form of your marriage the way you want. Not the way anyone in your family lived. Not how anyone on TV lives. Of course there are some good role models you want to look at for what they have to teach you , but your dream is your dream!

Now you need to simply put together a plan to get here. Believe me when I say this is not rocket science. In fact, you may be surprised at it simplicity.

What can you dare? How big can you dream? That’s the simple part.

But, Rev. Linda, we have to face reality.

No, never. Make your own! That is what you do when you write your wedding vows together and infuse them with your dreams.

That dream is your PLAN. That dream written into your personal wedding vows is your P LAN! You will have infused it with your imagination, creativity and energy. That plan takes on a life of its own and goes to work immediately to bring you the sculpting tools, the ideas, the experiences that manifest as your amazing marriage and partnership.

I give you everything you need in order to begin to think ‘big’ and dare to dream a big dream in my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS-How to Write Vows That Create Powerful Marriages. Follow this link or the one on the right–wedding vows- www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com

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Love, light and laughter,

Rev Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping you to ‘write the dream’ and then go and ‘live it.’

This may seem like a no brainer but I assure you it isn’t.

I did not grow up in a family that said “I love you.” Forget the once a day. We just didn’t say it.

I had to learn to think it and say it.

You know that old addage, ‘actions speak louder than words?’ Don’t you believe it when it comes to being able to express yourself through those three little words.

We want to be shown AND told.

You can forget or get so focused and busy that you forget to tell someone you love them. And they will accept that if you are showing love. Like remembering little things, or

I was reading a blog this morning about how writing personal wedding vows make a wedding even more special.

You can make you MARRIAGE even more special by writing your own vows!!

There is a little known secret about wedding vows: They have the potential to draw to a couple everything that they need to be ‘living the dream’ that they wrote into their vows. Their vows are sort of like a spiritual and mental plan that the Universe recognizes as a magnet and somehow sends the people, things, opportunities, experiences and ideas that support that plan.

But here’s some of what is needed to create that Law of Attraction or grow a strong magnet: The plan, the vows, have to be reread and reread and reread until they become ’second nature.’

There are a couple of ways this can be done.

1. Print out two copies of the vows and put one copy by each side of the bed to be read each night by each individual. Once a month read them together.

2. Print out one copy that stays in the bedroom and both partners read the vows together every night.

3. Both partners read the vows together every morning before they leave the house.

By reading those vows every day they become infused into the minds, lives and spiritual activities of the couple. I call that document a one page miracle. See more about ‘writing down the dream,’ and ‘keeping the dream alive,’ in other blogs.

www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda.

I love the idea of a couple choosing a flower that signifies their wedding or marriage or partnership vows. What if you, or whoever made the bed, put a silk flower on each pillow when the bed was made? That would be a very good visual reminder.

That way when you get back in bed at night you would have to look at that flower and remember the dream of your life together.

You wouldn’t necessarily say to yourself, “Oh, yes, this reminds me of the dream we created together.”

Mostly this would be almost subliminal. You will already have established the connection.

Now, if I could get you to read your vows every night that would be magic!

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda

Changing the world one vow at a time!
www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com

Hello:

I have been spending hours and hours and hours learning about Internet Marketing.

It’s a science. The basics are specific and ordered. And although they change as new developments and software is developed, you still have to start with step one, and go to step two, etc.

There is room for creativity. What colors do I want, where do I want to put things, what are the words or the copy used on the site? It’s all developed within a software program that requires one to follow basic core rules (my term).

I’m likening this to your marriage. If you have taken time to create a vision and a dream for yourself and for your marriage, that is your core software. As time goes on you may find that some of what you designed and planned isn’t practical, but you start with a blueprint.

All along I’ve been pretty adamant that you can use your vows to be the power driver, both before the ceremony and after the ceremony.

So you set the blueprint as your Law of Attraction (see other blogs) and see and experience what is working.

In Internet Marketing one is always testing to see what works. That means getting people to your site and converting, selling, them what you have to offer them.

If people aren’t coming, or if they are coming and not buying, you start doing things differently. You keep the vision for what you want to happen, but you constantly tweek a little here and a little there until you begin to get the results you want.

Every product is a good product if the site and the copy and is set up for results.

So use your vows to set up the site, to create the vision for what is to happen within your marriage and partnerships, and keep tweeking, and making little changes (most changes only need to be little.). But don’t give up.

Keep reviewing your vows and keep asking the Universe, God, Spirit, whatever you call it, to send you the ideas, people, opportunities and things that support your grand vision.

You’ll be surprised on how what you need shows up.

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda

The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping change the world one vow at a time!

www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com

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