Wedding Vows-Commandment #3: Have Powerful Dreams-For Yourself, Each Other and The Marriage.

Your wedding or commitment vows are for the purpose of creating dreams that give you passion for Life and Each Other.

Commandment #3 is about staying passionate–with yourself, your partner and the third entity which is the marriage.

To stay passionate and close and intimate and have fun along the way you must keep those hopes and dreams in front of you. They give you reason to get up in the morning, reason to plan, and a vehicle to help you keep your relationships powerful and long lasting.

A dream is bottled energy. You uncork that bottle when you talk about and imagine living your dreams. Imagine the outcome of those dreams. What is it like to be ‘living the dream?’

If you don’t have any dreams you simply have no plan. A profound quote is: “If you fail to plan you plan to fail.” Plan to succeed.

Writing your own personal wedding or commitment vows forces you to have a deep and meaningful conversation about your dreams, your goals, your wants, your desires and your requirements.

Writing your own vows in shared conversation where you outline the dreams you have for your lives is your plan.

You are going to start by sharing your dream for your own life with your partner. The dream you have for your marriage or partnership comes out of the dreams you have for yourself and the dreams that your partner has for him/herself.

You need both personal dreams and shared dreams.

What will you work together to accomplish?

Define your values and your goals.

“OK, Rev. Linda, just how do I define my goals?”

By asking yourself this question, which is one of the most important questions you could ever ask yourself:

‘What makes me come alive.”

What are the activities that make you come alive? A job just for the sake of dollars will not make you come alive.

What, when you are engaged in it, makes you feel so feel energetic and creative and just plain good? Then promise yourself and your partner that you will keep that passion side by side with you.

At this stage in your relationship just being with each other probably makes you feel alive. Define it. What is it about being together that takes on a life of its own? When you can name it, define it, write it down then you can take steps to keep it alive.

Your vows are about: A vehicle for you to write down what makes you come alive, what sets your dreams on fire, and what you have to do to keep that fire alive.

What if both of you made following your dreams, your passions, and what makes you come alive a priority?

What if your partner were living his/her life from a position of passion, joy and excitement every day?

Can you imagine the energy in your relationship?

Passion is a great creator. As you define and flesh out your dream and your goals and keep them alive you will be drawn to people and opportunities in magical and mystical ways.

I dare you to engage in a meaningful, purposeful and daring conversation where you both talk about the ideas and goals for your own lives, and then the goals and dreams for your marriage?

Then write something like this into your vows: “I love you not because you are the woman/man of my dreams, but because you are the one who gives me courage to dream.”

How can you do that if there is no specific dream?

“I promise you the love that I am. I offer you all the happiness I can give; in the knowledge that together we can achieve a union greater than the sum of its parts.”

Wow! That’s what I’m talking about.

Have powerful dreams. For yourself and each other. Keep them in front of you. They will pull you along in their track.

I want you to have a fabulous and fantastic marriage.

I want you to be madly in love and passionate about and for each other forever!

Write your own powerful unique and personal wedding and commitment vows and infuse them with so much life that they stand up and take off on their own!

To help you keep your dreams alive I wrote the 10 Commandments of Marriage. You can download a totally FREE copy with beautiful graphics. This is totally free because It’s my gift to you. 10 Commandments of Marriage.

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda Bardes,

The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then keep it alive!

I have a unique and innovative perspective around the subject of writing wedding or commitment vows. I believe that your vows can become a one-page-miracle that will help you to continue to live the life of your dreams. www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com