Wedding Vows-Commandment #4: Read Your Vows Every Day

Your wedding vows have more power than you might imagine. But the power comes not so much from the writing of your wedding or commitment vows but from continuing to read those vows every day.

Sometimes you read your vows by yourself and other times you read your vows together-at least once a week.

That gives opportunity for conversation so that grievances can be aired and cleared before they become too big to handle or explode into a dozen more problems.

The main reason for rereading your vows, however, has to do with the power of repetition.

You’ve heard the joke about the musician who became famous and played at the prestegious Carneige Hall in New York?

“How did you get to Carniege Hall,” the musician was asked.

“Practice, practice, practice,” he replied.

The more you practice the more your body/mind accepts what you say and imagine as the truth. It then goes to work to bring to you everything that supports the dream you wrote into your vows.

Here’s the strategy:

1. Talk about the dream you have for yourself and your marriage; your partner tells you the dream h/she has for his/her life and your marriage.
2. Write down that dream. “Think it, ink it!” This will give you an indication that you really know what you are talking about.DO NOT WRITE ANYTHING UNLESS YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS. NOT A WORD . . . NOT A PHRASE.Otherwise they are just empty, airy-fairy words and phrases and have no power.
3. Write your vows as promises telling each other what you are going to do to keep the dream alive. You don’t write down the dream in your vows. Your promises are reflective and represent the dream so that when you read them the reading brings up emotions and mental pictures.
4. Pledge your vows at your ceremony. This gives them authority because you have put them into the fertile soil of ceremony amid the good wishes of your guests–family and friends–who are affirming them with you. This is like a boost of fertilizer or growth hormone.
   
5. Read those vows every day.
6. At least once a year review, rewrite as necessary, and renew.
7. Keep reading those vows every day.

Reading your wedding or commitment vows after writing them with meaning, passion and purpose is the single most important thing that you can do to set the tone and the direction of your partnership and marriage.

Reading the vows every day helps clear the path, and keeps your lives and your marriage on track.

To help you keep your dreams alive I wrote the 10 Commandments of Marriage. You can download a totally FREE copy with beautiful graphics. This is totally free because It’s my gift to you. 10 Commandments of Marriage.

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda Bardes,

The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then keep it alive!

I have a unique and innovative perspective around the subject of writing wedding or commitment vows. I believe that your vows can become a one-page-miracle that will help you to continue to live the life of your dreams. www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com